Missed Opportunity


The senior pastor at our church quit. His last Sunday was this past week. He hadn’t preached in a few weeks due to the reason behind his quitting. The tension could be cut with a knife when he approached the pulpit. He stammered over his words which is not his style. You could tell he was nervous and uncomfortable. Of course he was. He’s leaving his church of 15 years. I am not him nor do I fully understand the depth of the pain he must be experiencing. However, I hoped for vulnerability in his sermon. He gave a regular sermon. At his benediction he said “I normally say I’ll see you next week but I won’t.” He’s a bit of a comedian and has a dry humor so it fit who he is. To me though, it was a missed opportunity.

I wanted to see a man of God admit he was hurting. Share a bit of his woundedness with us and how he’s leaning on God to get through this season of pain. We didn’t get that. Again, I am not aware of the depth of his pain nor the full story behind his leaving. However, this was a missed opportunity.

Two weeks ago I had a chance to face my own vulnerability. I got angry at a few friends and even used a few choice words. The next day, I hung my head and apologized for my outburst. I truly was ashamed by my handling of the situation the night before. No one wants to be humbled. No one wants to admit they are human and have failings. No one wants to be the one who has to apologize. Each friend responded differently to the apology too. One commiserated (that one felt good), another just received it and another received it and comforted. It’s hard to be humble.

Is there an opportunity in your life right now where you can model humility and vulnerability? Do you need to apologize for something you said or did? Do you need to acknowledge an attitude or thought life that no one would know was even going on? When we step out in humility, we may be rejected, comforted, empathized with, or treated with ambivalence. It’s tough but necessary. Why? Because the world doesn’t live this way. They hide, blame, shame and sue. As believers in Jesus Christ, we need to be open, humble, grace-filled and forgiving.

If you are the one needing to be humble or you are on the receiving end of someone’s humility, be gracious. Make this opportunity of vulnerability a positive one. The more we share from honesty, the stronger we become and the more glory God receives.

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. – Colossians 3:12 

Dream Big! Pray Big!

P.S. I am sorry I missed last week and am a day late this week. With almost 3 teenagers, my house is crazy. Some weeks I am going on fumes. I hope to stay on track for the rest of the year. Thank you for reading my blog faithfully. I appreciate you.

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