“Chivalry is dead” many say. I say it’s not dead but it’s very hit or miss. It is also discouraged because some feel it’s chauvinistic. I had two encounters with chivalry this week.
As I walked out of the parking structure, weighed down by several bags, a man was entering the building I was headed to. I was across the courtyard from the door he was entering. He saw me, and my load, and waiting with the door open for me. I thanked him and said it’s nice there are still gentlemen in this world.
The next day, same location, I emerged from the parking structure at the same time as a man. We were walking side by side to the door. I dropped a bag and paperwork fell all over the courtyard. He stepped around me and said nothing. I set down my other bags, picked up my mess and continued on. A missed opportunity for chivalry.
In both cases, I didn’t need a man to help me. I did appreciate it fully the one day and felt sad for the man’s lack of consideration for others in the second situation. A woman could have done the same for me in both situations too. However, we are talking chivalry here which by definition is a male trait.
Dictionary.com defines chivalry as
The methods of training and standards of behavior for knights in the Middle Ages. The code of chivalry emphasized bravery, military skill, generosity in victory, piety, and courtesy to women
Chivalry now usually just means “courtesy to women.” However, I was pleased to see that piety was also a part of chivalry.
piety – reverence for God or devout fulfillment of religious obligations
A man who loves God and gives courtesy to women is a rare thing these days. If you know one, thank him for being counter-culture. If you have a son, raise him to be chivalrous. Have him open the doors for his sisters. Teach him that Jesus loves him with all His heart and has great plans for him. Pour into him an appreciate for women and the unique way God created us.
This week, as you walk through life, look for acts of chivalry. If you are a man, perform these acts. Women, thank the men who live this way with a sincere expression of gratitude. Men, when you are thanked, receive it and let it build you up for those times when your way of living is mocked. Let’s make sure chivalry never dies.
Dream Big! Pray Big!