Mother’s Day is a bittersweet day for many. We all have a mom. Our mom may be alive or passed on. We may have a great relationship with our mom or a rocky one. We may be a mom. We may have a great relationship with our kids or a strained one. We may want to be a mom and aren’t yet. Or we may have a great relationship with our mom and our kids. Wherever you fall in these wide range of possibilities, it’s still Mother’s Day. The emotions you feel are valid, real, and worth discussing.
As a mom myself, I am thrilled to be able to be with all 3 of my kids today. My oldest is home from college for the weekend. Yay. We also celebrated her turning 20. She had her first birthday without seeing us this year. It was a milestone for all of us. As a mom of teens and now a young adult, I realize celebrations are changing. We even took our first vacation without all of us there. My middle daughter is about to play her last few games of Varsity soccer. I LOVE watching her play. Those days are almost over as she graduates in June. New normal. Today I soak them in. Tomorrow, I will grieve a bit. I am not a mom without purpose beyond my kids. I am however an intentional mom. With that role changing more and more as they grow, I am grieving those changes. I need to acknowledge that truth and grieve those changes. Grief is not just over someone you lose to death. Grief is required when change comes and a new reality starts. I need to let it go and embrace the new. It may be a short process or a longer one. We shall see. I just want to encourage all moms out there dealing with transition with your children (starting kindergarten, quitting dance, starting middle school, graduating, etc.) take time to sit in what is being left behind and embracing what is ahead.
For those of you who lost your mom, I am so sorry. I unfortunately understand that grief now. It’s a tough journey. As you know, my mom passed away in January of this year. It’s still very fresh for me. I miss her. I want her here. I walk this journey day by day and holiday by holiday. If you are missing your mom today – cry, think of fun memories, laugh and tell her you miss her and love her. If you are a mom, hug your kids tighter. If you aren’t a mom, hug a mentor you have or your mother-in-law or anyone who looks like they need a hug. You need one too.
For those who are estranged with your mom or your kids. I am sorry. I can’t image the pain of Mother’s Day in that situation. You are loved and valued by God. I encourage you to pour out your pain and sorrow to God. Let Him carry you. If you need to tuck yourself away for a day and binge watch “Good Wife,” go for it. Take care of yourself. Don’t let the holiday throw you. It’s just another day. You will get through this. Keep on praying for reconciliation and restoration. If that isn’t possible, ask God to surround you with friends and others who will walk life with you.
On Mother’s Day, I laugh, I cry and I enjoy. I choose to feel it all.
Whatever Mother’s Day is for you – you are loved, valued and cared for.
Cast your cares on the Lord
and he will sustain you;
he will never let
the righteous be shaken.
~ Psalm 55:22 NIV
Dream Big! Pray Big!