If you have never played Cribbage, it’s worth learning. I spent many hours playing this in my 20s. I had a few friends that loved it as much as I did and we played a lot. The other day, my son and I played a few games. He crushed me. I’m good at this game, too. He had great cards and he’s got strategy. (By the way, this hand with the 8 of diamonds included, would total 7 points (2 counts of 15 and one run for 3)). If that makes no sense to you, look up the rules and learn cribbage .

Playing games with my kids and with friends is one of my favorite things to do. However, I’m a tad bit too competitive. It is something I’ve struggled with my whole life. I like to win. I like attempting something and succeeding. Games are a way for me to laugh and have fun. Yet, when my competition side rears it’s head, watch out. I have worked hard over the years to contain it and temper it. Some days are better than others. I have come to realize that my competitive side leads me to strive for great things and give my all. It also leads me to have strong emotions about the outcome.

Years ago I took a test about identifying your strengths. Competition is one of my top 5 strengths. Every one of our strengths in life has a shadow side. That shadow side is the weakness of the strength. Both will be there. Learning to manage them is the key. I really struggled calling competition a strength because it’s weaknesses play out so much in my life. I’m a sore loser. God has made great strides in me. However, some days the flesh wins and I get frustrated at a loss. I love a good game. I HATE a loss. I continue to strive for excellence in all I do. This stems from my competition strength. I continue to strive to be gracious in defeat. This is a lifelong and an experience by experience challenge.

What is one of your strengths? Once you identify it, look for it’s shadow side. How does it play out negatively? How can you use your strength more in your daily life? How can you temper the weaknesses of the strength as well? Maybe you are an organized person but the weakness is that you get mad or stressed if you see disorganization in your home or workplace or church. Maybe you are a strategic thinker and have big ideas which leads to judgement of others who want to play it safe.

This week spend a chunk of time with God and ask Him what some of your strengths are. Then ask Him:

Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. ~ Psalm 139:23-24 NIV

Find those weaknesses, those offensive ways within, and seek healing and growth.

Dream Big! Pray Big!

2 thoughts on “Games

  1. Kathy Collard Miller

    Wise comments about our strength’s “shadow side.” Great description! I’m sensitive to the feelings of others but that can have it’s shadow of people pleasing. And…I love to play games. Why did I marry someone who doesn’t? LOL I guess the shadow would have been we wouldn’t do anything else. So I’ll be content! Thanks, Debbie, as always for your insights.

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